Welcome my sisters!
Some of the posts and things you will find on this site will challenge you, make you uncomfortable and maybe downright mad. You may even stop reading or visiting this site. With that being said, I also know that we (my sisters around the world and I who will share on here) are not here to tell you lies, deceive you or coddle you. We are not here to appease you or tell you what you want to hear. Instead, we are called to speak the truth in love. We have an obligation to uncover the lies the enemy has fed us and to take a stand while we push each other to become who Our Creator has already called us to be–even while we WAIT.
Ok, so now that I have gotten that out of the way, Hey girl! I hope you come back, stay a while, and are encouraged as you read through the site, so much so that you bring a friend or two back with you.
Let me begin by telling you a little more about Lady in Waiting (LIW), its concept and how it all unfolded (and is still unfolding). It was birthed out of many conversations I have had over the years with many of my girlfriends about when we were getting married, why we weren’t married yet and wondering if God had somehow forgotten about us as He was watching over the other 7 billion plus lives on this earth. Then, in 2013, as my relationship with the Lord began deepening, I grew tired of having the same conversations and still coming up short with no answers. Frankly speaking, many of my friends had already tried it another way and it had not worked out for us. Instead, we ended up with shattered hearts, sipping from a cup of bitterness and giving men the side eye with raised eyebrows. You know that look ladies. To say we were skeptical and suspicious is putting it lightly. Along the way, however, we did gather many funny stories as well as red flags to watch for in relationships (more about that in another post). You won’t believe some of the things guys have said to us over the years, haha!. But I digress…
As my mindset began to shift, I no longer desired to figure out the answers to those questions my friends and I were asking. The Lord began challenging and asking me questions-two in particular: “What are you really waiting for to get started on what I called you to do in this season of your life?” and “What are you doing now while you wait?”. I pondered these questions knowing good and well that He was going somewhere with this. It was then that He gave me the title, “Ladies in Waiting” and called me to start a life group at my church. As I began searching for a book for the life group, I found a similar book title, “Lady in Waiting” by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones. After the first launch of the life group, where more than 40 women signed up for my group (there were about 12 other groups), I realized the huge need. We were only allowed to have no more than 12 per group if there was only 1 life group leader. I felt terrible having to turn these women away. Women were desperate for a place where they could talk openly and honestly about waiting–to be married, to have children, to start school, change careers, buy a house, to travel and the list goes on. After two cycles of the group, I became even more aware of the importance of supporting other sisters through the struggles of singleness, difficult marriages, separation and divorce, starting over, transitions and just life as a woman in this world. I had only scratched the surface. Thus, here we are!
There is so much I want to share with you about my journey of singleness and my hopes to be married one day. More importantly, I want to share with you the lessons I have learned along the way-about myself and God as well as others (especially men), the balancing act of starting and maintaining healthy relationships, the struggles as well as the victories and yes, the beauty of finally embracing your season of waiting for whatever that maybe. I am not sure how this blog or site will evolve, but I am confident that all that I and others who will share on here have learned will be beneficial to you in some way and draw you even closer to the One who has been and is still waiting on you. So, while you wait, whether you are married, widowed, divorced, separated or single, I hope that you will be encouraged, empowered and challenged to become your BEST self right NOW!
What is one thing you feel or believe you are supposed to be doing right now, in this season of waiting? What are you waiting for to do it? I welcome your comments.
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