Let’s talk about you and me. Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be…Let’s talk about sex!
You remember that song?
I feel like I was in grade school when it came out. It was August 1991 to be exact. I had no idea what I was really singing about at that time either. Yet, even though over 26 years ago, the lyrics had a deeper message that still rings true today.
Salt and Pepa, the group that sang this popular song, had the right concept as they were trying to bring awareness to HIV and AIDS. The message was to promote safe sex as well as the “good and the bad things” about sex. Check out some of the lyrics below.
There ain’t a man alive that she couldn’t get next to
She had it all in the bag so she should have been glad
But she was mad and sad and feelin’ bad
Thinkin’ about the things that she never had
No love, just sex, followed next with a check and a note
That last night was dope
Let’s talk about these lyrics. “She had it all in the bag so she should have been glad…but she was mad and sad and feelin’ bad.“
Why is it that, though she could have any man she wanted, she was still mad, and sad and feeling bad?
We live in a culture today where everything is so readily available, yet we still want more. We do whatever is necessary to get what we want, however sometimes still come up ’empty’, mad, sad or feeling bad. It’s never enough.
We make uneven exchanges and end up with the short end of the stick because we don’t want to wait for anything.
Truth is, one thing the culture won’t tell you is that over time, for some sooner than later, the notion that you can have whatever you want-at any cost-or as much sex as you want and continue to feel good gets old really quick.
After all is said and done, what else are you left with? The main character in the song came to the realization that after having it “all in the bag” and using “what she got to get whatever she don’t got” didn’t equate to what she really wanted: love.
That’s because sex and love are not synonymous. This world, however, will tell you otherwise.
Since the act was created as a gift to be enjoyed within a covenantal relationship, i.e. marriage, outside of that, there will eventually be consequences, even if you don’t see them right away.
Oh, but the enemy of this world doesn’t show you what it will eventually cost you upfront. He never shows you his whole hand, just the enticing part. The consequences will show up over time (and I’m not even referring to the physical consequences that can happen.)
Ravi Zacharias once said,
All pleasure must be bought at the price of pain. The difference between false and true pleasure is this: for true pleasure, the price is paid before you enjoy it-the discipline of knowing when to say ‘No’. It’s painful, but if you say no in the beginning, you enjoy the pleasures of what God gives to you. For false pleasure, the price is paid after you enjoy it.
Sis, while waiting, ask yourself what are you trading in or what are using that you currently have to get what you don’t have? What kind of uneven exchanges are you making? This doesn’t have to relate to sex either. You could be trading in or compromising in other things in exchange for love, attention, peace, affection, value, etc.
What is your soul and heart truly longing for as you wait?
How can you begin to turn away from, let go of or say no to what/who you have used recently or currently to fill a void and instead move toward the One who can fill it continuously and abundantly?
Tomorrow I will conclude with some things to consider if you choose to wait.