Recently, I went on my first local missions trip to Gainesville, GA. In the midst of that beautiful place, I found myself combating negative thoughts and the enemy. These thoughts weren’t something that I am immune to or couldn’t readily identify with, but as always they seemed to creep up at the most inopportune time. The thoughts were of a loss of hope that I will never get married, which is still a deep longing in my heart.
Now, truth be told, these thoughts also didn’t surface out of nowhere. I will readily admit that I have been reading some sappy Christian love stories recently. (I can’t help it. I am still a hopeful romantic!)
It was a feeling that is all too familiar for me, but one that I have learned to recognize and in recent years, quickly combat with the best ammunition, God’s Word, i.e. my sword.
Here’s a glimpse into my thoughts of the lies I kept hearing, straight from the pit of hell:
Maybe it will never happen for me.
Maybe I will never find a man who will be intentional and persistent in his pursuit of me.
Maybe I will never experience that kind of love I have frequently read about.
This time, however, I immediately detected the lies that the enemy was trying to feed me.
Would you believe he even had the nerve to surface in the midst of my sweet quiet time with the Lord?! Oh, but this time I was ready for him with ammunition of my own, refusing to dwell on these lies for one minute too long.
And this is when the Holy Spirit stepped in and reminded me of these beautiful truths:
A Man (Jesus) found me when I was at my worst.
He was (and still is) intentional and persistent in His pursuit of me. (As a matter of fact, He was pursuing me long before I knew who He was, long before I gave Him the time of day, long before I entered into a relationship with Him.)
He always loved and wanted me…before I loved and wanted Him.
He always loved me…long before I even began to understand what real love was.
The truth is…I have never experienced the love I have read about in these books or seen in movies.
You know the kind…the too good to be true kind of love. Instead, I have experienced and continue to experience something even better…Someone even better.
It’s the love that is too good that it is true.
Sis, may you and I never forget this truth, in the midst of waiting. His love is patient, kind, forgiving, persevering, just, enduring…and completely fulfilling and satisfying.
The truth is…it has happened for me (and can happen for you), if you and I let the Lord, not satan, others or the world, write our stories.
It will continue to happen for you and me as long as we hold onto this everlasting truth, that:
Long ago the Lord said to [Charlene/Your name here] I have loved you, My [daughter] with an everlasting love. With unfailing love, I have drawn you to Myself. ~Jeremiah 31:3, NLT
Cling to this truth in the moments when you feel like a hopeless or discouraged single.
Signed,
A Hopeful and Encouraged Single
Lady In Waiting 222 
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